Today is another lesson in vocabulary. After living in a psychologically abusive relationship for 17 years one term I never knew existed but sums up our lives totally ….. we have all been gaslighted our entire lives with your Dad.
The definition of gaslighting is: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. I know after 17 years towards to end I did indeed doubt my own insanity. I am sure you also doubted my sanity. Your dad does a great job of making everyone believe Mommy is crazy. Because he is so mean and spiteful and abusive, any normal sane person would react to his outlandish and flat out lies. He can turn any situation around on you, in fact we used to joke about Daddy’s jedi mind tricks. Here is a specific example.
Yesterday morning, I got a TMS alert that you and Natalie were not allowed to school. Since your Dad has not allowed any contact from me to you or updated anything with what is going on to school. Plus he also doesn’t read his Schoology or notices from school, I had to remind him about using the app to fill in your information as Mr. Mott had written a few days ago.
As Mommy has always read and kept up with your school notices, I immediately added the app to my phone. Yesterday I received these notices.
So then since your father has not responded to any of my requests for phone calls and said you do not want to speak to me and “I’m on my own” because he heard a comment he thought Mommy said that he thinks is not true so he cut me off from you guys again … I do what any good parent does, I email and ask the school.
I also spoke to Auntie Linda as she has known you since you were in my tummy and she said not to worry, everyone knows you guys are my kids and they will be well looked after at school. So I send your dad the following email:
To which of course your Dad does not reply, instead he write this to your principals:
and then replies with ….
Now how were you guys affected? I merely asked a question of where are my kids? Your dad cannot just kidnap you and then forget I even exist or take any of my rights away and then try to turn it around on me that I don’t have any access to you and I’m affecting you?
So Tanner and Nat, this is today’s perfect example of the term gaslighting. Your Dad is the king of gaslighting. And this is another fine example of emotional and psychological abuse as we talked about in yesterday’s post.
Letters from Mommy 